Do you guys know what “Phubbing” is? Phubbing is
a new term to define the habit of snubbing or ignoring someone when in a social
situation by looking at a phone or other mobile devices (Tomic, 2013).
In the digital 21st century,
communication through social media has become a norm. Nowadays, human
interaction is possible to have a conversation of more than two people by using
chat applications such as WeChat, LINE, WhatsApp and Facebook Messenger. Compared
to past few decades, owning a mobile phone provides a sense of accomplishment
even though he or she is only owning a NOKIA 3310 for keeping contact with the
beloved one. Now, a smartphone with the updated software like store application
allows people to download games, applications and books freely. Therefore, other
than communicating with people, we also use smartphone to access internet for status
updating, checking other statuses, tweeting and sharing content as well as for educational
purposes.
STOP Phubbing!
Due to the convenience that smartphones provided and
development of technology, people less engaged in face to face communication
with family and friends (Chen & Marcus, 2013). Use of electronic media is increasing but poor
real-life communication had occurred between people in our society. In other
words, people
reduced other activities which included face-to-face social interaction when
they began to become a phubber. This showed that people
are using their smartphones more frequently compare to face to face communicating
with other people.
Issues happened
in our society
Research showed that teenagers are mostly the one
who involved in fiddling with their phones during meetings, having dinner with
others and in any social situations (Are
smartphones making us anti-social?, 2013). According to Al Khatib (2013),
87% of the teenagers today prefer communicate through texting than face-to-face
communication. On the other hand, 97% of the people feel their food tasted
worse when they are the victims of phubbing (Al Khatib, 2013).
Last but not least, even though technology has improved human communication but at the same time it changes human communication.
Do you hate someone who ignores you by looking at his or her smartphones? Or you are the one who always ignore people by looking at your smartphone? Just kindly remind, put down your smartphones or other mobile devices to have a proper conversation with your family, friends or other people. DON’T ALWAYS BE A PHUBBER. J
Tomic, J. (2013). Will “phubbing” ever stop?. Retrieved
from http://www.brandingmagazine.com/2013/10/14/phubbing-maccann-macquarie-dictionary/.
Al Khatib, N. (2013,
September 7). Phubbing: Me, myself and my phone. Gulf News. Retrieved from http://gulfnews.com/news/gulf/uae/society/phubbing-me-myself-and-my-phone-1.1228415.
Are smartphones making
us anti-social?. (2013, October 14). CBC News. Retrieved from http://www.cbc.ca/news/technology/are-smartphones-making-us-anti-social-1.2053920.
Have you ever experience the feeling of being left out in a conversation? Or when a conversation is out your interest/scope? So, at that time what do you do? Well, not necessarily but I bet most of them will turn to their handphones instead. In this modern world of technology, smartphones are one of the basic things in your bag/ pocket. It is the closest item for you to stay connected. I believe everything has a choice. Not to blame on technology, but on humans itself. Be it a gathering that turns into non-face-to-face communication. If one could just speak up, and say, "Hey, let's ignore the cellphones and have a great chat girls!" I bet that the one being left out will be the one who keeps scrolling her smartphone. It is all depends on the manipulation of human beings. In a family, a simple rule that states, "NO gadgets at the dining area" might as well help to buy more time for family bonding. Phubbing is the trend now. Phubbing when there are people who needs your attention is rude and disrespect. Phubbing alone, who cares? However, people around can voice out to their friends or family members to respect others and listen. Why complain when you allow them to do so? There was once a game where a group of friends had their gathering and all smartphones were put in a basket. The first person who touched/ grabbed their cellphone paid the bill. Creative and at the same time, more time focused on the interaction with each other. So sometimes, it all depends on you, and the people around you.
ReplyDeleteIt is undeniable that phubbing has now become a trend in society nowadays especially among youngsters/teenagers. But, somehow and sometimes, teenagers/youngsters phubbing in gathering happened are not their initial intention. They might feel isolated in the happening conversation as he has absolutely no idea on what the others are chatting about. Hence only they opt to be phubber or else they will be sitting there and listening to the clueless conversation. It seems dumb and is actually boring. If I am happened to be in such situation, I might reacted in two ways: 1. be a phubber, or 2. leave the gathering scene and have some fresh air outdoor.
DeleteBut, think on the other point of view, aren't the second action showing that one is in a depressed mood? To some other individuals, this might be interpreted as seeking attention among friends.
As wrapping up my words, sometimes phubbing is acceptable for not destroying the merry atmosphere.
In my opinion, phubbing provides a sense of satisfaction and excitement. Why do I say so? This is because all of us are human beings. Human beings are social by nature. Smartphones and social media provide chances for us to stay connected with friends, to be part of something and to be updated to current issues that happen around us. When we are down, it is good to have our smartphones to help us escape from the reality. It is no wrong to be a phubber. However, everything should not be overdone. When we are in real-life conversation with our beloved friends and family, we should at least pay attention to what they say, share their stories and show them that we concern about them. We can try to change the topic of the conversation if we do not have a common topic.
ReplyDeleteSaya sering mengalami keadaan phubbing dimana rakan saya sendiri sering mengabaikan orang disekelilingnya jika berhadapan dengan telefon pintarnya. Dia sering tersenyum sendiri dan kadang-kadang ketawa terbahak-bahak apabila melihat SMS yang diterimanya. Saya berasa sangat hairan melihat kelakuan dia dan apabila membawanya berbual dia langsung tidak menghiraukan saya. Bagi saya, phubber ini memberikan keseronokan kepada pengguna gadjet seperti telefon pintar. Hal ini kerana mereka merasakan kepuasan tersebut dengan menggunakan telefon pintar yang ada. Justeru, mereka ini juga berada dalam dunia mereka sendiri tanpa menghiraukan orang disekeliling yang menegur mereka.
ReplyDeleteYeah. I admit I don’t like someone ignore me when we had a conversation. It’s rude. Actually, phubbing is one of phenomenon that being present without actually being there. It clearly shows that people that we had talking to might say ‘what are you talking to me is not important than this device I’m holding’. We know a smart phone is really awesome, but sometimes we should just put it in pocket when we do some other things. For example, we have a dinner conversation with our partner. So, all it depends on individual actually.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, I think phubber is actually a trend among youngsters nowadays, where it enable people to have some privacy space, or rather to say an escape from reality.
ReplyDeleteBy throwing yourself into the internet world, you do not need to worry much thing, for temporary, Is actually rather a good way to reduce stress. However, there should always be a limit in doing these, one should never allow themselves escape forever.
Phubber is actually a sign of changing cultural and communication pattern, we could see people prefer indirect contacts, rather than face to face communication.
It might be an outcome of low self esteem.